Love and frequency
Most of us are familiar with the concept of intuition: that inexplicable sense of knowing that’s more of a feeling than a cognitive awareness. Have you ever had an awareness that someone close to you is not doing so well, even if you haven’t spoken to them? Have you ever been thinking of someone specific and then had that exact person message or call? Have you ever been able to feel someone looking at you when they are not in your line of vision? A gut feeling, a premonition, instinct, hunch, call it what you like, these are some expressions of your extra sensory abilities. Despite being raised in a society that generally only considers our 5 physical senses and doesn’t give us much opportunity to cultivate any extra sensory perception, we all have these abilities.
We are constantly taking in information and, depending on how tuned we are, we can be drawn to different kinds of energies.
Depending on your state, at any given time you might be more attuned to either negative or positive stimuli. When you leave your house in the morning you step outside and might have your attention drawn to someone frustrated by the traffic or to the kind stranger helping someone in need across the street (the exact thing that is causing the backup of cars). If you are in a good mood as a result of receiving some positive news about something important to you, it’s likely you will be tuned to positivity for the remainder of the day. Adversely, if you are in a bad mood, you likely will be more attuned to negativity, and everything you come into contact with seems to affirm your idea of the world as an unpleasant place.
Depending on where we put our awareness we take in different kinds of information.
We don’t realise that we are active participants in creating our experience of reality and most of the time rely on external input to dictate our states of consciousness. If good things are happening in our lives, we see the world as a good place and vice-versa. We often unknowingly use bad experiences of the world to form a lens through which we gaze . With this process, we can end up developing programs that run in the background of our minds informing our experience of life. More often than not they are programs born out of a will to survive in a seemingly threatening world and recreate thoughts and feelings rooted in fear. These behavioural patterns or programs are not set in stone; they are, although difficult at times, re-programmable.
This is not a letter about trying to eradicate unpleasantness from one’s experience or ignoring the truth of any given moment by rose tinting the world, it’s rather about realising one’s power in impacting one’s experience of reality.
There is a whole range of human emotions that we have access to and no one is more important than the next; however, love, bliss, peace etc. are obviously more pleasurable to experience, so we seek them out. We have some choice in this matter and can, with some discipline, cultivate a practice of being more tuned to positivity.
Tend to the garden of your mind
Being more cognisant of your thinking patterns and programs can start the process of changing the filter through which you see the world. Simply noticing habits of negative thinking can be a powerful catalyst for growth and change.
Another practice that can be helpful is taking a deeper look at our understanding of the idea of love. Most of us consider love as something reserved for our friends, family, partner, something to be earned. We perceive romantic love to be vastly different from other kinds. Some of us have some trauma attached to the idea of love.
A lot of us fear loving. Perhaps you fear loving because you learned somewhere along the way that loving was dangerous and can hurt. Maybe you consciously or unconsciously believe that loving is a risk and one that you’re not willing to take since you tried it before and it ended badly. Remember that just because something happened once doesn’t mean it will happen again. If you attach yourself to an expectation of something just because it happened before, you are more likely to experience that very thing again because you expect it, and you’re looking to confirm your bias.
Love sometimes does end in heartbreak, but that’s not a reason to avoid loving. You’re going to die at the end of your life, but that’s not a reason not to live.
Many of us feel like we are just trying to survive, and we feel the need to focus all our energy on that basic existence and don’t have extras to be sending around, least of all to strangers. Being in a loving state is in fact energising when it is authentic and not exercised in order to get something in return. Test it out and see if you can maintain awareness of sending out love frequency for a day, or even the next hour.
Love is not finite. The more you give the more you have.
Sometimes, a person’s positive energy can be so strong that, even if we’re not particularly tuned to positivity that day, we can feel it. We feel love coming from others like a magnetic force field drawing us in. You might feel this around certain people in your life or even around strangers you interact with in public—your waiter at a café, someone you work with, the person by the till at the check out, a family member… When you move through the world with a genuine desire to express love, people can feel it, perhaps not always on a conscious level but on a level of frequency. Most of us don’t realise that we are always putting out a frequency of some kind and that we’re constantly feeling each other’s energy.
We sometimes have this perception of love as being limited and if you give it away freely there is less for you or for those in your life. This is not the case—quite the opposite in fact. The more you love, the easier it becomes and the more capacity for love your heart has. You understand this intuitively, though. When you make a new friend, you don’t love your other friends any less. When you fall in love, you don’t lose any love for those in your life who you love.
When it comes to romantic love, we often become picky about the kind of love that we think we want. We might have a highly specific idea of the kind of person we want to be with. There is nothing wrong with having preferences and taste and knowing yourself enough to know what is important to you in a partner. Just be aware of how tightly you hold onto these ideas. When you think that you can only love one person with a particular collection of qualities and you’re waiting to meet said person, you block yourself from experiencing all the love that is available to you through other encounters.
Many of us look for love because it’s something we feel like we’re lacking, so we seek the source of it in others. Do not underestimate the value of YOUR love. Everyone is looking for love, and you have it in infinite amounts. That makes YOU the source of what everyone wants. You are a veritable fount of love, and each day you get to share that with others. Try to give love freely and without expectation, and see how this impacts the world around you.
One needs to extend equal amounts of love to the self as to others. We don’t want to be pathologically altruistic; we don’t want to be martyrs; we don't want to burn out because we give too much and don’t consider ourselves. We want a balance between love and wisdom. Wisdom guides us in difficult situations that require us to set boundaries and consider commitments and what we’re giving. We want to cultivate a close relationship with our intuition that will guide us through seemingly tricky situations where we are unsure of what the most loving thing overall to do is.
We can’t know the extent of the impact of our love on the world around us, but if we have experienced that loving energy ourselves then we know how moving and deeply transformative it can be.